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Painful memories are a replay of a painful experience. In many cases the
      pain is remembered separately from other emotions such as desire or firm
      intention to complete a plan. The reason they are separated is that the
      human mind determines to void a painful memory by washing over it and
      dulling the sharp edges everytime it’s remembered. Psychiatrists will tell
      you that this is what happens. Someone has a painful experience. At first
      they block it. Then they remember it, perhaps in the doctor’s office, and
      there’s much weeping and gnashing of teeth and wailing. This is called a
      catharsis or a breakthrough. After that they remember the experience many
      times, but each time it seems to have less effect. It lessens. The edges
      are smoothed. How many women having experienced the extreme pain of
      childbirth, remember the birth process and remember that pain? They
      remember the doctor holding the baby. They remember the feeling of great
      joy. 
      
      So the painful part is separated from the joyous part because the human
      mind has structured it that way so it can close off avenues to the pain.
      In fact, when this pain is remembered, these avenues are severed, like
      slamming doors shut, so that the connection points between the pain and
      the joy are broken and eventually only the joy is remembered. This is in
      fact documentable, and has been documented, that this is the way people
      remember experiences. In the long path, they remember the good parts, not
      the bad. Therefore, contactees who are remembering something painful have
      separated that out and are getting rid of it. Often the painful parts are
      remembered first, in recall, because it is something vivid. After the
      painful part is eliminated, the contactee begins remembering other aspects
      of the visit. Bear with it, let your mind heal and deal with the painful
      contact experience as it deals with other painful experiences, and see
      what stands behind it. You are being contacted because you asked for this,
      and you wished for what came to you, so don’t fail to dig deep enough to
      find out the full picture.